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Orgasm the Full Body Workout

        Recently, I had a discussion with a lady in the fitness industry who told me that human sexuality, sexual behavior and me promoting sex toys for women was in no way related to women’s overall health and or fitness.    Being a 40 year old woman, sexually experienced at 40, has lived a life with body image issues and being so fine-tuned with her body, (as most my age are) who can tell any given month which ovary the egg is dropping from I do know otherwise. 
      Before getting to the Big O let me address a point; like weight loss the Sex Toy industry is a "billion" dollar industry geared primarily towards women.   Dildo’s, vibrators, body massagers from all price ranges, sizes, shapes, etc…all geared to help induce ORGASM The Big "O" which is not a dirty, sinful, thing. Orgasm is an amazing phenomena of the human body that engages numerous muscles at once, glands, thousands of nerves and the brain (see bottom extras for more on that).  In fact when a female has an ORGASM do you know what happens, besides that amazing wave of sensations?  Her vaginal muscles CONTRACT powerful squeeze & release sensations that come in waves, rolls, wait…rewind…muscles contract…hmmmm not related to our overall fitness? Why ladies do we believe this? Could it because we can’t see results in the mirror or on the scale? Something to think about here. What are we being told on a whole in regards to our bodies these days?
     When a woman is not on her period and is ovulating these contractions naturally work in a strong “suck in and squeezing” motion that can rival any bicep flex or vice at a hardware store for that matter. Experts speculate this vacuum effect as Mother Natures “Plan A” helping to ensure semen is “pulled up and in" so her eggs become fertilized for procreation of the human race hmmm again nothing to do with overall wellness..creating life..nahhh. 
     Ok…well here’s another ladies, fascinating more so,  in majority of cases during  mensuration if that same woman were to orgasm these muscle contractions work in the “REVERSE” direction pushing out and releasing as nature’s way of “cleansing”. Is your head spinning yet? Mine is. Our body does all this. Mother Nature....as Miss Chante would say, "you better wurrrrk".
     Furthermore, those kegels we hear so much about, from popular magazines whose headlines rave every month “For Greater Sex do These Subtle Lil Exercises….Enhance His Pleasure Own Your Love Muscle….” Most of us have heard the news 1000x over do your kegels to strengthen your PC muscles.  What exactly are the PC muscles and what does this really mean?  
     Oh wait muscles, again with the muscles, how is the possible no shredded lines to show my progress, no inches reduced, or mass gained. Heaven forbid I can’t see results therefore it's "physical condition", "fitness of" must not exists.  
     Ohhh but they do and they do so much more then those cute little headlines tell us. PC muscles are a group of muscles that attach the pubic bone to the tailbone at the end of the spine which SUPPORT your vagina, urethra, bladder, & rectum.   Kegel exercises tighten  ensuring that the vagina, bladder urethra and rectum don’t SAGGGG ladies S.A.G should no way be put in the same sentence vagina.  Let that one resonate for a moment ladies…and start thinking about all those miles on the treadmill, all the plyometrics, the weights you use to strengthen your muscles, you know the ones that you can look in the mirror and SEE the results; resistance bands all the lil “gadets” and equipment we use daily at the gym….NOW see the correlation? 
    In my screaming HELLO voice #1 G-R-A-V-I-T-Y…#2 Sex toys are TOOLS used to enhance ones sex life, build intimacy in relationships and lastly to PROMOTE ORGASM…which my lovely’s, has everything to do with your OVERALL physical well being, vaginal health is PART of your health, SEXUAL wellness is PART of your health, your body image effects your SEXUAL health and relationships which is part of your OVERALL health and wellness. 
     When told that I am taking away from the physical fitness element by bringing sexual education and wellness to the table nothing can be farther from the truth. I am educating and promoting overall women’s health. Gyms, diet centers, uniformed fitness enthusiasts, and media has programmed us to focus only on what the eye can see.
    I see Sara is 120 pounds she is 5’7 exercises daily is 23, fit, toned, models, but has never had one real orgasm in her life, has yet to ever explore her own body & the thought alone arises guilt and shame.  She is a stranger living within herself. I see Sara at 27 she has a child, goes back to her fitness regime but is perplexed that when she jumps she’s got leakage, in fact she can’t sneeze without being fearful of a wet spot.  Sex with her husband worries her since things haven't felt as "snug" down there and sensation is just different then before.  She still has not taken the time to "learn" her body, what feels good to her so she is unable to communicate her needs and desires with him.  
     But hey, she’s till only 27, still 5’7, she is activate and looks better then she did pre pregnancy because she works out 2x a day, has a trainer, eats clean, watches her micor & marco nutrients, she is on point in area areas of her physical fitness……or is she???
Extra How Orgasms Work
Sexual excitement in the brain stimulates increased blood flow to the genitals, engorging the penis in men and enlarging and lubricating the clitoris and labia inwomen. Pulses quicken, and the elevated heartbeats are heard in more intensive inhalations. Central nervous systems fully engage, directing messages of escalating enjoyment along the pelvic, pudendal and hypogastric nerve endings in the genital regions back to the brain's reward system and vice versa during plateau [source: Nuzzo]. This full-body workout then crests with a series of pelvic, cervical and anal muscle contractions in 0.8-second increments that correspond with orgasmic sensations and ejaculation [source: Elliott]. Deep relaxation and resolution typically follow as muscles relax and heart rates slow to a resting pace.

The American Red Cross Urges Safety and Vigilance Through Winter Weather and Potential Power Outages

TML Clients we will be closed February 12th 2014 due to winter weather.  Lori TML's Yoga instructor has provided us with some very useful information to stay warm and safe from the American Red Cross.  

TML Turn Me Loose Fitness Promo Video by Senora8819

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Cassandra Wycko has created a fun and exciting atmosphere with a variety of fitness classes - Pole dancing, Cardio Bootcamp, Weight & Strengthening, Twerk IT, Zumba, special event parties and so muc...
I  I wanted to say a very BIG special THANK YOU to Senora8819 for creating this truly amazing video.  Senora came in an shot some of our classes over a 2 day period, and it gets CRAZY at TML so bless her heart and her patience level.  I let her know what I had for my vision and she took it to a whole other level that I couldn't imagine. I as so excited to share this video on my affiliate sites, as well as the TML Facebook Pages for everyone to see how talented this lady is.  Thank you Senora8819!




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Eating Disorders & Body Image

Eating Disorders & Body Image

     While web researching tonight I stumbled across many blogs and articles relating to body image issues and eating disorders.  These articles focused on the two most well known of disorders Anorexia and Bulimia. From personal experience alone I know there are many people, self included, struggling with neither of the two BUT may get caught up in a cycle somewhere in between.       
      Food & body image issues have always had tremendous power over my life whether I was 234 pounds and obese or 147 pounds and fit.  When people come to me and tell me I don't know what alcohol or drug addition feels like I can confidently say bulls***.  Obesity and eating disorders KILL just as much as other addictions, it may be a slower kill but if not taken seriously can destroy life just as well.       
     Food has developed its own identity in my life, a split personality occupying the depths of my  psyche.  I don't mean in the way of obsessing on "what to eat" like some would imagine.  I don't think most people with eating disorders sit around obsessing on eating that piece of cake, ice cream etc...its almost the opposite having more of a mental confusion effect of what we can and can't eat, should or shouldn't' and EVERYTHING that goes into our mouths we shame ourselves for afterwards only to feel guilty later.      
      At points in my life I've completely disagreed with programs that focus on "counting" because of the focus and power they give to the food.  I believe doing so at a young age embedded in my brain"counting" everything as second nature as I do today.  Realistically as a fitness enthusiast and trainer I do know this method has been successful to many but for me probably was not the best method.  That is why with my clients I like to focus more so on "movement" getting up and moving period!  
     About 2 weeks ago my family and I were at Home Goods and I walked past what I thought was "fun-house skinny" mirror.   I loved the way I looked yet gaining about 50pds since opening TML I am by no means societies standard of "skinny". Regardless I still caught a glimpse and thought WOW when I saw myself "if only I really looked like this, I need this mirror".   Then I called my husband & daughter over and said "hey look how good this mirror makes me look" they both looked at each other a little startled and said "ummm that is the way you look!" I refused to believe them. I  made both of them step in front of the mirror.  Those that know me know I didn't stop there LOL.   Yes I called a store worker over and asked her if the mirror was a fun house mirror then insisted she too to step in front of the mirror as well, you can imagine how she looked at me.     
       I have a problem, I know this, I've met plenty of women that battle the same or similar issues with little information out there other then labeling us with "lack of discipline"  as we Yo Yo up and down.   I've also heard of people that have the opposite issue.   Delta Burke I can remember once saying she had the opposite of anorexia while gaining her weight she saw herself as much thinner when she looked in the mirror but obvious to others and media that was clearly not the case.  I've been there as well and woke up to my surprise asking how did this happen AGAIN! Unfortunately, there are A LOT of us out there.  My goal is to get the information I need to help myself as well as those I know and work with personally.  

Cassandra WyckoTML...Turn Me Loose Fitness LLCwww.tmlfitnessinfo.comtmlfitness@gmail.com

Change Your Perception on Your Path to Weight loss

Like most "average" women I have been  right there, with y'all Yo Yo dieting away LOL.  I'd loose weight...gain weight, but my quest was always to loose the weight to look FLYYYYYYY & to basically "get in shape". 
      First of all, I have to say certain word combinations in the English language shouldn't even be put together &  sometimes can backfire on our butts such as; "LOOSE" weight, "QUIT" smoking.  Odd when you think about it, words associated to achieve a  positive result yet have negative meanings in our society.  When was the last time you felt good about being a quitter or were stoked about loosing something?  The word "weight" alone can set me into a frenzy and losing something that had become a part of my character for so long well, lets face it psychologically puts a tad of a "negative" spin to losing it, its scary.  You may wonder everyday, can I do this?  What will I look like? Although funny now thinking about it my the biggest issue was where the heck would the fat go? Although I KNOW the whole process, I STILL couldn't wrap my head around 75pds, 50pds etc...I was sabotaging myself into failure. Giving the weight power over me psychologically.  Losing the weight for me seemed TO BIG, take too much time & way to far away for me.
      Then one day I finished a 1 mile run in boot camp class without falling down gasping for dear life and air LOL.  I had completed a mile run without stopping...it was PARTY TIME!!!! I was soooo happy, I called EVERYONE I knew I did the mile in 14 min, not even in junior high could I do that!  Then I told myself, I wanted to do the mile in 10 min so I worked my butt off.  I went to they gym after boot camp not to try to lose more weight but to build POWER in my legs to run faster. A couple of boot camp sessions later to my surprise I was at 9:10. The same applied for push-ups, sit-ups, I was in competition WITH MYSELF & I was having fun & felt GREAT, PROUD!!!!! Next thing I knew, the weight was coming off but that didn't even phase me, all I wanted and still want to do is get stronger & challenge myself.
      What I am saying is this; whether you have 10 pounds to go or 100 pounds don't focus on the number.  Focus on "what else is good", such as; "My legs are strong, I bet I can do 50 squats 3 times & jog 1/2 mile without stopping, then challenge yourself the same challenge a few days later adding a set or time. Work to change your perception on what you are trying to accomplish have fun with it! 

Pole Dance going Mainstream with Rules & Guidlines Article Link from Wall Street Journal

What do you all think? Me, I would like to see Pole Fitness get the credit it truly deserves mainstream. After all my child poles and she is 11. There are many different spectrum's to Pole Dance. Some complain it will take the "sexy out", to me its the "same difference" between natural pageants verses glitz. Rules change per competition the BIGGY's such as Miss America as well as Miss Universe are the eventual goal for some, so those competitors get as much competing in as possible to eventually "get there". The competitors learn what is and is not acceptable at each competition as there are many. I believe everything/everyone needs to have/know boundaries, guidelines so that we clearly know what is expected of us to achieve what it is we are trying to achieve. For those that want to keep the sexy "anything goes"..then compete in the clubs for those that are striving to make this an Olympic Sport then set your "rules and artistic standard" to gain nationwide recognition. For the ladies that enter my studio each have different set of goals, some are looking to step up their sexy so we have classes catered for them. We have other students looking to progress their skills to a different level as well. As an owner I see both sides to this, as a 40 year old wife, mother, not looking to be "the next big thing" I enjoy the sexy aspect, I enjoy helping women get back in tune with their inner sensuality because fitness is not just about hitting the gym for a woman to get there it means so much more. It starts in her brain and how she feels about herself. Then connecting her mind, body and spirit to help her achieve her goals. Great article.http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887323971204578630070114556206.html?mod=ITP_AHED

Week 1 Exercises w/Kinetic Kraze

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Get Sweaty and Beach Ready Wk 1
Bicep Tricep session April 1st-7th